Hell we haven't even gone in a date yet. I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. I am so glad to have found this blog too. Is he willing to, nay, interested. I know a lot of Mormons who were also not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender rolesвbut I was, as were many of my peers.
Marriage is meant to be eternal. I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough. This man basically tells you in a simple way within 6 minutes. All these link from LDS. They took an oath and it is who they are. The fact that she is dating an atheist non-Mormon shows pretty serious lack of conformity already.
Found this blog just now after searching "married to a surgeon". Do you truly believe in temple marriage as a requirement for Celestial attainment. If I even mention wanting to talk just about normal life things, I am told not to tilt the balance between problems and fun. Things have worked out pretty well with us so far. Communicate and get those answers, OP.
Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. The thing I worry about is the reason that we are together is that I don't want to build my own life. This insecurity is at the root of the princess syndrome. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. There is a lot about Mormonism I am still struggling to understand, but I am reading faith-based memoirs and studying up on Mormonism as well as other religions but the relevance here is on Mormonism. He feels obligated so often and wants to be a nice guy I don't think he even realizes how he hurts me when he so often chooses work.