This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. Is he aware that if your children are faithful members of the church they might end of marrying in the temple and he would not be allowed to attend the ceremony. I am so glad to have found this blog too. Something that will help you stand out is a strong masculine frame. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality. Mormon girls are the best, and you are pretty lucky. He is not a member and has told me he is not going to convert. All I can do is have Faith in Him. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. On top of their day job, they also have to read volumes upon volumes of medical journals to keep up with their profession.
I think it might be worth trying. I learned to read by reading the Book of Mormon. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. Before I proposed, I actually broke up with my partner for a month в mostly due to family pressure. You just can't imagine the heap o' hurt you're potentially setting yourself up for.
I think the most important thing is to bring up the issues as questions rather than points as why she's wrong. I appreciate my own space too, but it felt shitty to have this great time with him and not get so much as a text until we are making plans for next time. I remember when my ex and I had invited friends to our house for a 4th of July dinner and had spent a lot of money and time getting ready. It's scary to feel like you might never measure up to someone's expectations you love. I get that a lot to people saying 'be happy you married a doctor' 'u will have a glamorous wonderful life' they would not get it unless they be one-that is being a docs wife, the loneliness is the worst especially when your newly wedded and 2nd month of ur marriage he has to go for his night calls in dec, which includes our first christmas: I thought I was the only one who barely gets communication throughout the day, not married but am dating a surgeon and have for 6 years.
He's so used to me saying that I sometimes wonder why he even has to ask. I am particularly tied to an area because of family and friends and he was set on selecting a list that was best suited for his career, not me. I learned that going out and having fun with friends every single weekend was not going to be part of our lifestyle together due to time restrictions, tiredness, etc. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is. You will always be 2nd. She wants the eternal temple marriage and you will be her long term project TL;DR I considered ending my marriage of Save yourself pain by getting out before it gets harder. She really likes me, and if she could change one thing about me it would be my lack of religion.