I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. Not every LDS person does, unfortunately. I am in my first year of medicine. I can say this. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. If you talk to him about it, and he cares about your relationship enough, the two of you will probably be able to find something that works for both of you. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever.
Honestly, unless you want to convert and: And, if she does claim those things don't matter, be prepared to find out how much they really do after you've married her. Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. We are best friends, and you will always have time for your best friend. Go on dates on days other than Sunday. OP, I'm not a med student, just a plain old grad student. We have been married a mere 3. When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me. No drama-inducing crossposting of content found in other subreddits, or vice versa. Never ask vague questions and give her definite options instead.
And ah yes, I have a very strong dislike of all nurses. Take the missionary lessons, read the Book of Mormon and the Bible. If you're just shaken up and in need of a few stitches and work is busy, that means instead of rushing to your side immediately I might wait until my shift ends before showing up with takeout and flowers to look after you. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her.
It has just made me realize that these formulas a lot of us Mormons learn growing up about how to have a happy marriage are, well, crap. Do you want to be married in the temple. Really, I'm interested in this too. Do you schedule time in to talk and see each other. It has worked and my children are very protective of their father. So, one would one think, "yay, she works, has a life and friends and has avoided the ongoing loneliness and "empty nest syndrome". Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old.