The bottom line is that you are setting yourself up for difficult times ahead. Basically this is different than dating a religious mainstream Christian. Additionally, you need to take stock of your beliefs and acknowledge they may change overtime. I would find it therapeutic to type out all of my feelings and at the same time he would get an update. Fellowship was worse and now that my doc has been an attending for 2 years, it is worse than it has ever been. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. I grew up in Utah, attended BYU, and served a mission. I definitely don't want to lead her on.
He has never said a disparaging word about his mother. Most want nothing to do with the church. Their thinking is something like this. These girls are nervous around non-Mormons. Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. Hey, thanks for the info.
He is studying to get into a residency program and I struggle to get his time. Much good luck, and keep us in the loop. If you go yourself, you'll see - those people are good people. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. Their perspective gives you an idea of how important your role as wife and mother is to the success of the family of a doctor's wife. Mormonism isn't a free ticket to heaven. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church. But I ultimately leave it to him most times. I can no longer spend more than 30 minutes in the sun.
I have no family nearby as I am from a different country. I've heard way too many stories of people breaking up with amazing people and they end up alone or in a less happy relationship. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. Also, I know a bunch of Mormons that say they are, but don't act like it. The Mormon church is certainly a time consuming church. A lot of people will tell you to run but if she is in her late 20s most Mormon guys her age are married. Why shouldn't both people be responsible for making it work. But is it the path that will make you the happiest.
